the X windows system is 30 years old today. that’s older than the first GPU. that’s amazing(ly horrifying)
case in point: the cotton ceiling
When you tell women how to “avoid” assault, they are not your only audience. Rapists and wannabe rapists are listening too. When you say “Take self-defense classes!” they hear “Pick the one who didn’t, or drug this one.” When you say “Put up a fight!” they hear “If they don’t put up a fight, no one will blame you. Drug them so they won’t.” When you say “Watch what you drink!” they hear “Get her drunk, or drug her.” When you say “Don’t go down that alley!” they hear “Rape her anywhere else.”
So, thanks for contributing to the rise of date rape drugs. It couldn’t have happened without you.
^Why that sort of “advice” is never said in a vacuum.
A terf seriously just tried to tell me how to handle my own triggers.
Apparently my being triggered is not as valuable as someone else being triggered because my way of existing while being triggered doesn’t work for them.
This shit cannot get any deeper.
Anonymous said: If someone goes through steps to alter the features typical of your asab to be more in line with features of some other asab then I honestly don't have any way to rationalize them as not being trans. Basically yes, I think anyone who takes hormones as a means of altering sex characteristics is trans, regardless of whether or not they identify with their asab.
Then what you’re saying is that you use the word “trans” in an entirely different way than I do, and you know this, but you want me to justify how we end up using these now totally different words to mean totally different things.
Is that about the shape of it?
Let me put this to you. If someone takes a hormone or hormone-altering drug that causes their secondary sex characteristics to alter in a way that you associate with another sex but this isn’t the goal, are they trans?
If someone administers treatment to someone against their will with the goal of altering their sex characteristics, is the victim of that coercive treatment trans?
If not, why?
And if your answer to either or both of those questions is no, then you are so close—so close—to grasping the essential truth to what differentiates a trans person from a person who is gender-nonconforming by means of dress or medical treatment.
Following the questioner’s line of reason, would an afab woman who takes hormones to prevent menstruation be trans?
Or, are “typical” sexual characteristics fungible, shifting things, designed to be far more accommodating to cis people than to their trans counterparts?
Formulating theories of transness based around faulty, cis-sexist concepts may be a bad idea.
It’s weird how quickly the criteria of “how they see themselves” comes back on the table when no one’s looking.
Even if you mean well, consider that asking a trans woman to explain how she didn’t grow up “male socialised” or “with male privilege” may well be asking her to relive some of the most painful, frightening, confusing, and confining memories of her life, on demand, just because you won’t believe her without “proof.”