"So many students have said, trans students have said; now I can have a point of reference when I talk about who I am. My friends are like, ‘Oh, like Sophia from ‘Orange is the New Black?’’ and they’re like, ‘yeah,’ and then they just move on and it’s not an issue,” she said. “I got a letter from a young, from a trans youth’s mother who said that he transitioned because of me and because of seeing me on the show it gave him the courage to talk to his parents about who he was and they’re supportive and loving and now he’s started his transition. It’s insane. It’s really beautiful."

Laverne Cox on the impact of her character Sophia Burset (via comebreakmedown-buryme)

REPRESENTATION MATTERS

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goatsimulator:

the X windows system is 30 years old today. that’s older than the first GPU. that’s amazing(ly horrifying)

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princessgorgon:

20-odd transgender girl could use some help

my toxic ex who recently moved out stole a bunch of my things and is refusing to pay rent or utilities for her last month spent here, and I’m going to be unemployed and without
health insurance in a week (which means expensive doctor visits and expensive hormones :c)

I’m also moving soon, and I won’t be able to get the security deposits back from my current utilities or renting lease without fucking over some of my good friends, so I’m pretty low budget until they can manage some resources to reimburse me

as such, I’ve taken to selling my possessions! I’m in p bad need of cash in short order, and you can help me out by buying my weapons or instruments, donating to my paypal, or signal boosting!

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urseelye:

lucypaw:

benndragon:

tonidorsay:

Awww, look! Transphobic person wonders why men going to women’s shelters is a bad thing.

When I see things like this, I worry. I worry about trans men whose male partners respond to their transition with abuse - where should they go? I worry about the binarism that declares transmasculine people are always read as men and thus would be perfectly safe in general shelters. I worry that someone like me, pre-hormones, pre-surgery, sometimes read as male but more often not, will have nowhere to go if the shit hits the fan.

I worry that, in the much-needed rush to defeat transmisogyny, we’re throwing trans men under the bus. Why must it be either/or? Trans men and trans women always put in opposition to each other, everyone must accept one or the other but not both.

No. I reject this gatekeeper feminism bullshit. Trans men, trans women, and trans non-binary people are all hit with sexism as well as transphobia, and I will not let some assholes on the internet tell me I no longer count, I no longer have a home, I no longer deserve a safe space. Fuck that noise.

This is derailing.  You take the obvious statement that men should not be in women’s shelters and turn it into something else entirely by making all sorts of assumptions.  Please move back, think about this, and try not to do this again.

Look, shit is complicated for sure when dealing with false sex/gender binarism, but what you’re doing here?  Making this all about your worries and theoretical harm instead of the actual harm already being done to trans women?  And basically accusing trans women who are being harmed of theoretically harming you?  Not cool, not helping anyone.

(Also, there are places where they have if not shelters for men who have been abused at least help for them including such things as vouchers and/or arrangements with motels for housing.  That you didn’t bother to educate yourself on this before basically declaring that women’s shelters should be taking in everyone doesn’t say good things.)

Look, shit is complicated for sure when dealing with false sex/gender binarism, but what you’re doing here?  Making this all about your worries and theoretical harm”

This shit right here isn’t helpful. The harm isn’t theoretical. Quit calling my goddamn harm theoretical. 

Unless you’re also benndragon, I wasn’t talking about your harm at all.  If you want to assume I was, that’s on you, not me.

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benndragon:

lucypaw:

benndragon:

tonidorsay:

Awww, look! Transphobic person wonders why men going to women’s shelters is a bad thing.

When I see things like this, I worry. I worry about trans men whose male partners respond to their transition with abuse - where should they go? I worry about the binarism that declares transmasculine people are always read as men and thus would be perfectly safe in general shelters. I worry that someone like me, pre-hormones, pre-surgery, sometimes read as male but more often not, will have nowhere to go if the shit hits the fan.

I worry that, in the much-needed rush to defeat transmisogyny, we’re throwing trans men under the bus. Why must it be either/or? Trans men and trans women always put in opposition to each other, everyone must accept one or the other but not both.

No. I reject this gatekeeper feminism bullshit. Trans men, trans women, and trans non-binary people are all hit with sexism as well as transphobia, and I will not let some assholes on the internet tell me I no longer count, I no longer have a home, I no longer deserve a safe space. Fuck that noise.

This is derailing.  You take the obvious statement that men should not be in women’s shelters and turn it into something else entirely by making all sorts of assumptions.  Please move back, think about this, and try not to do this again.

Look, shit is complicated for sure when dealing with false sex/gender binarism, but what you’re doing here?  Making this all about your worries and theoretical harm instead of the actual harm already being done to trans women?  And basically accusing trans women who are being harmed of theoretically harming you?  Not cool, not helping anyone.

(Also, there are places where they have if not shelters for men who have been abused at least help for them including such things as vouchers and/or arrangements with motels for housing.  That you didn’t bother to educate yourself on this before basically declaring that women’s shelters should be taking in everyone doesn’t say good things.)

You know what? No trans woman has EVER told me I and people like me shouldn’t be in women’s shelters, only other people who are trying to defend trans women by telling me transmasculine people have no safe place at all ever unless we’re 100% read as a man at all points in time - even if that’s not our actual gender identity or presentation!

Pitting trans people against each other to grab at the scraps that cis people sometimes deign to grant us (but only some of us, only those who fit into their narrow ideas of male and female) is transphobic as fuck. Don’t help them do that!

Please stop assuming,  I didn’t say you shouldn’t be in a women’s shelter.  I said you shouldn’t derail from the issue of trans women being in women’s shelters by the theoretical issue of where you would go were you to need shelter.  Read the exchange again: I’m not the one who pitted trans people against one another.  That was you.  Calling me transphobic for what you did is even more obnoxious.

Also, since you bring up what trans women have said.  As a reminder, you decided to make your statement in reply to a trans woman who I reblogged.  A trans woman who works for housing for trans people in need.  You’re making your crusade on her back, not mine.

stjesusofsuburbia:

benedictsbanana:

leonawriter:

skinnysanity:

The horrifying moment when you look around for an adult and realize you are one.

I need adultier adult

I NEED SOMEONE WHO CAN SUCCESSFULLY ADULT

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fromonesurvivortoanother:

kenobi-wan-obi:

it’s sad that all they have to do is show our faces in order to strike fear into other people. that we don’t even have to try and look menacing for someone to find us scary looking and worth being shot or hunted down like an animal. we could be the most loving fathers, brightest teachers/students, and they’ll still figure out a way to make it seem as though we had every bit coming to us for existing while black.

forever reblog

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benndragon:

tonidorsay:

Awww, look! Transphobic person wonders why men going to women’s shelters is a bad thing.

When I see things like this, I worry. I worry about trans men whose male partners respond to their transition with abuse - where should they go? I worry about the binarism that declares transmasculine people are always read as men and thus would be perfectly safe in general shelters. I worry that someone like me, pre-hormones, pre-surgery, sometimes read as male but more often not, will have nowhere to go if the shit hits the fan.

I worry that, in the much-needed rush to defeat transmisogyny, we’re throwing trans men under the bus. Why must it be either/or? Trans men and trans women always put in opposition to each other, everyone must accept one or the other but not both.

No. I reject this gatekeeper feminism bullshit. Trans men, trans women, and trans non-binary people are all hit with sexism as well as transphobia, and I will not let some assholes on the internet tell me I no longer count, I no longer have a home, I no longer deserve a safe space. Fuck that noise.

This is derailing.  You take the obvious statement that men should not be in women’s shelters and turn it into something else entirely by making all sorts of assumptions.  Please move back, think about this, and try not to do this again.

Look, shit is complicated for sure when dealing with false sex/gender binarism, but what you’re doing here?  Making this all about your worries and theoretical harm instead of the actual harm already being done to trans women?  And basically accusing trans women who are being harmed of theoretically harming you?  Not cool, not helping anyone.

(Also, there are places where they have if not shelters for men who have been abused at least help for them including such things as vouchers and/or arrangements with motels for housing.  That you didn’t bother to educate yourself on this before basically declaring that women’s shelters should be taking in everyone doesn’t say good things.)

TERFs manufacture scandals with the same fervor as other conservatives.

tonidorsay:

simply-connected:

case in point: the cotton ceiling

Yup

brutereason:

misandryangie:

When you tell women how to “avoid” assault, they are not your only audience. Rapists and wannabe rapists are listening too. When you say “Take self-defense classes!” they hear “Pick the one who didn’t, or drug this one.” When you say “Put up a fight!” they hear “If they don’t put up a fight, no one will blame you. Drug them so they won’t.” When you say “Watch what you drink!” they hear “Get her drunk, or drug her.” When you say “Don’t go down that alley!” they hear “Rape her anywhere else.”

So, thanks for contributing to the rise of date rape drugs. It couldn’t have happened without you.

^Why that sort of “advice” is never said in a vacuum.

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tonidorsay:

A terf seriously just tried to tell me how to handle my own triggers.

Seriously.

Apparently my being triggered is not as valuable as someone else being triggered because my way of existing while being triggered doesn’t work for them.

This shit cannot get any deeper.

Anonymous said: If someone goes through steps to alter the features typical of your asab to be more in line with features of some other asab then I honestly don't have any way to rationalize them as not being trans. Basically yes, I think anyone who takes hormones as a means of altering sex characteristics is trans, regardless of whether or not they identify with their asab.

blue-author:

yungmethuselah:

blue-author:

Then what you’re saying is that you use the word “trans” in an entirely different way than I do, and you know this, but you want me to justify how we end up using these now totally different words to mean totally different things.

Is that about the shape of it?

Let me put this to you. If someone takes a hormone or hormone-altering drug that causes their secondary sex characteristics to alter in a way that you associate with another sex but this isn’t the goal, are they trans?

If someone administers treatment to someone against their will with the goal of altering their sex characteristics, is the victim of that coercive treatment trans?

If not, why?

And if your answer to either or both of those questions is no, then you are so close—so close—to grasping the essential truth to what differentiates a trans person from a person who is gender-nonconforming by means of dress or medical treatment.

Following the questioner’s line of reason, would an afab woman who takes hormones to prevent menstruation be trans?

Or, are “typical” sexual characteristics fungible, shifting things, designed to be far more accommodating to cis people than to their trans counterparts?

Formulating theories of transness based around faulty, cis-sexist concepts may be a bad idea.

It’s weird how quickly the criteria of “how they see themselves” comes back on the table when no one’s looking.

rememberwhenyoutried:

Even if you mean well, consider that asking a trans woman to explain how she didn’t grow up “male socialised” or “with male privilege” may well be asking her to relive some of the most painful, frightening, confusing, and confining memories of her life, on demand, just because you won’t believe her without “proof.”

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akeppleaday:

"Happy" World Cup, Brazil.

(Here are some sources.)

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