The bottom line is that Jared Leto is a man who has made millions of dollars and won several awards for playing a trans woman and yet has not even mentioned the word “transgender” in any of his many acceptance speeches and even called the woman he played the t-slur in an interview

There are a lot of trans women out there who would have been more than capable of playing Rayon, and to say that a trans woman playing a trans woman wouldn’t be considered acting is to say that every single Best Acting Oscar winner should just send their trophy back now

I’m fucking sick of it. I refuse to worship a rapist cis man who thinks of the trans femme community as that which must not be named just because he shaved his eyebrows off

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A Step By Step Guide through Jared Leto’s Trans Ignorance.


Jared Leto has been winning multiple awards for playing the transgender character of Rayon in the film “Dallas Buyers Club.” The transgender community has then watched him throw them under the bus.

1. LETO"It was the role of a lifetime," he said. "It was an incredible thing to represent this group of people who largely are ignored." 

Ignored. Leto ignored criticism from the trans community and allies who don’t want him representing this group of people in the way he has been. "wouldn’t it have been better if the starring role had gone to an actual trans person" - La Times.  Despite complaints and Leto having one of the most powerful publicists in Hollywood, Leto claimed in December that he had never heard criticisms that trans roles should go to trans actors. When asked what research he did for the role he said “a lot” but he did not formally engage, pay, or study under any trans people.

Transgender roles should go to transgender actors and if that is not possible (for whatever reason) productions should hire transgender consultants to “get it right” instead of perpetuating negative stereotypes. 

Jared ignores this: 

2. LETO"you wouldn’t want to stick a transgender person with only transgender roles, so it goes both ways." 

Transgender people DO NOT GET cisgender roles. It does not go both ways due to systemic oppression. Cisgender people take transgender roles then do what Leto is doing instead of the advocating and “possibility modeling” of Laverne Cox in “Orange is the New Black.” She represents trans people beyond the screen role in the media in positive ways never experienced before. This creates “teachable moments” as Katie Couric put it after her problematic questioning.  When a cis person takes a trans role, trans stories are exploitation, not representation. 

Meanwhile, Trans Hollywood’s experience is that trans people are often told they do not have enough experience for key roles. It’s a systemic problem, cis people take trans roles, trans actors are left with nothing. 

3.  "I thought I’d look pretty good in a skirt." 

No Jared, the character of Rayon is fictional in this film “based on a true story.” She was ahistorically written in order to be the “most gay” and visually problematic for Matthew McConaughey’s character Ron Woodroof. You removed your eyebrows (?) and played her with intense makeup, hair, and clothing to make Ron uncomfortable and a very unlikely ally.


You weren’t there to look good, you were there to look bad. You are perpetuating the “man in a dress” stereotype of transgender women. 


What if the role had gone to these transgender women?  Would the theater laughed as hard at Ron ripping down Rayon’s photo while masturbating? How would the supermarket scene have played out if Ron was just seen walking around with a beautiful woman vs. a straight cis male playing….what…..

4.LETO: ”This wonderful creature who was unfortunately addicted to drugs and dying of AIDS and fighting for her life.” and “beautiful creature….”

While you’ve made it clear in interviews that Rayon was living life as a woman and wanted trans related medial care but you don’t talk about playing a woman or trans woman. You talk about playing a “creature.” USE THE WORDS “TRANSGENDER WOMAN.” Again, how do you feel you are representing “this group of people” if you never use the terminology? If you call one of us a creature. We don’t want you up there Jared if you are just going to be a bro about it. 

5. LETO: ”It’s wild, even putting on lipstick is a very shocking thing, [and] putting on heels is a very shocking thing, putting on tights is a shocking thing” “. One of the things I did was wax my entire body including my eyebrows,’ 'I'm just fortunate that it wasn't a period piece so I didn't have to do a full Brazilian [wax].  'Ladies, you know what I'm talking about though…and so do some of you men, I think.'

All superficial gendering. People are not giving the award to rockstar Jared Leto who talks about how weird it is to do things femme cis women and femme trans women do every day. They gave it to what seemed like a serious actor in a demanding role. Jared did not use the role as a learning moment to be forever changed by trans struggle. Instead he jokes about it like a cis man does, it’s trans misogyny. When asked about leaving the role behind….

6. LETO “I tucked those balls firmly away… I’m still coughing them out.”

Come on, is he our drunk uncle making fun of us? And on criticism for his Golden Globe’s speech…

7. LETO “obviously I didn’t prepare a speech.” 

But he did! He gave nearly the identical speech at the Hollywood Film Awards. 

Hollywood Film Awards Speech:

Golden Globes Speech:

This led to proper criticism over the transphobia and exploitation: 

Jared Leto and Michael Douglas’ Homophobic Acceptance Speeches

The Golden Globes gave Jared Leto an award for playing a trans woman because Hollywood is terrible. 

C’mon Hollywood

So is anything changing? YES!. Leto’s SAG AWARD Speech dispensed with the cheap jokes and had some class, dedicating the award to the groups he borrowed emotional equity from instead of being about himself, his waxing, and his return to film after six years, and the great parties: 

8. LETO: " I’d like to share it with the Rayons of the world. To the people who have made a choice to live their lives … as they have chosen to dream it. I’m so proud that i’ve been able to glimpse the world through your eyes." 

There is learning happening but it seems more as a response to backlash than actual learning or community. What is next? We do not identify as “Rayons.” Say the word “TRANSGENDER.” We appreciate the attempt at recognizing a marginalized group but Leto is avoiding our self identity, making up his own point of view on what we are and should be called. We are organizing so this learning curve never happens again. We need trans actors in trans roles for visibility, representation, and positive models instead of wanting to vomit listening to a cis man make fun of us. We don’t want to be writing Tumblr posts and articles defending ourself from a person who thinks they are representing us. While in this period of civil rights, we want to see ourselves truly represented and moving forward.


Strong commentary and powerful anecdote from Courtney. It shows how much of an impact language can have.



This weekend I went to the Tranny Awards in LA with a few other queer porn performers. This weekend has really changed my view on the world of porn. I personally dislike the term tranny and that has not changed for me nor will anything truly change that. This weekend has blown my mind I have never…

you should read Chelsea’s original post and what tobitastic added to it.

and here’s my thoughts as a porn producer who is not a trans woman.

what people call themselves, and what you should call them, can be vastly different. those folks outside the trans* female spectrum should respect trans women who have chosen to use the word tr*nny. it is not anybody’s place to tell them not to. it is not our job to police those who identify with these words. it is not our place to judge them either.

it is, however, our place, to not use those words ourselves.

the reclamation of derogatory words belongs solely to the community who suffers from it’s power.

many women have not reclaimed these words, so it’s not appropriate to assume that the use is universally applicable.

the word tr*nny is far more “acceptable” when used to describe sex workers than it is to describe trans women who aren’t sex workers. question this. tr*nny is also used in drag culture, cis gay culture, the fashion industry, and television as derogatory terms.  (ie, hot tr*nny mess, we all remember this one right?)

this is why on top of my neverending respect and support for the women who work in the trans adult industry regardless of what terms they use, i also strongly believe in phasing out these words in the marketing of trans porn made by folks outside the spectrum. we can support the women who choose this word without using it ourselves. it can’t be that hard. also, we don’t get to judge anyone for the words they’ve picked for themselves either. it’s not a reflection on class or intelligence or coolness, we are not elevated because we use respectful language for people outside of our own experience that we don’t know. we *should* use the word *woman* - unless welcomed otherwise.

tobi’s latest film Doing It Again Vol. 1” Playful Awakenings was just reviewed on XCritic by the best reviewer in the trans porn industry, and he used the term trans woman and woman because that’s what the movie called it’s performers. In a review from the same writer for a movie called Shemale Playthings - he used the words shemale and tranny and never trans woman or women.  (and if you’re curious, tobi’s film got the better rating overall)

Producers of trans porn have power over how their performers are viewed and what words are used to describe them. Porn reviewers and retailers are happy to carry along our language. Customers and fans use the words we ask them to use, too.

i will leave this recent interaction with a cis straight male fan of my work as a sad example of the power behind what we call the porn we make. he had seen a scene from Trans Grrrls (of Chelsea, actually) and came to dinner after the event. midway through our meal he started telling this story about how someone had shown him a dvd of of mainstream trans porn at a party. he called these women freaks and tr*nnies and sensationalized the entire experience. I didn’t really know what to say except, “how was that porn any different then what you saw tonight” and he said he didn’t know, but the box cover called them “shemales” and “trannies” so he did too. He didn’t see how that porn and my porn was similar. He didn’t call my performers tr*nnys, he called them women.

i also believe integrating trans women into all kinds of porn, and having women be cast as women in scenes about women - without the trans signifier. but that’s next on the politics of porn show.

anyways. don’t use the word tr*anny unless someone tells you to call them that. and don’t judge people who call themselves tr*nnies. and give porn consumers the benefit of the doubt that they will follow your lead if you choose to market your porn in a new way. allowing porn performers to represent their own preferences regarding language and sexuality is more important that you think. end of story.



This weekend I went to the Tranny Awards in LA with a few other queer porn performers. This weekend has really changed my view on the world of porn. I personally dislike the term tranny and that has not changed for me nor will anything truly change that. This weekend has blown my mind I have never…

This is exciting to hear and addresses some questions I’ve been thinking about since I first started doing this work.  Part of what makes it difficult for me is that it’s not just about me, but all the women in my films - many of whom are comfortable doing porn for the first time because they know, that among other thing, that I will fight having derogatory words like s****** and t***** applied to them. Some of my performers would be deeply disappointing or hurt if their performance was ever labeled that way.

I think it’s incredibly valuable to have a space for a large gathering of trans women in the porn industry. I’d love to go some time. I’d probably be able to separate out my objections and feel good about any nominations or awards for my personal performances. But I still don’t know what I’d do if one of my films were nominated for an award. I’d probably start with individually contacting performers from whichever film and talking with them about it. I’d love to see my work spread to a mainstream audience or given mainstream recognition. At the same time, my commitment to my performers comes first.

My Experience at The Tranny Awards as a Queer Performer


This weekend I went to the Tranny Awards in LA with a few other queer porn performers. This weekend has really changed my view on the world of porn. I personally dislike the term tranny and that has not changed for me nor will anything truly change that. This weekend has blown my mind I have never been around that many trans women in my life let alone trans women who are also sex workers such a myself. I really came into this weekend like a lot queers who have a general dislike for the idea of mainstream porn as a oppressive force that pushes negative terms  onto the trans community and provides a very one sided view of trans sexuality. I am sharing my experience and hope you read this and have something from my experience and really reconsider your view on the issue of queer involvement in a mainstream trans award show.

The overall idea that the awards are named the “Tranny Awards” becuase of a cis man with a general lack of respect for the trans performers who the awards are for is something I heard a lot of before leaving and even the idea that no queer porn company should be involved with a award show using the t word is something I have saw being reblogged on tumblr a few weeks ago. Spending the entire weekend being around mainstream trans porn performers and talking to them about the terms they id as and are comfortable with has made it very clear to me that a large majority of the mainstream (mostly straight) performers either id as a tranny or enjoy the awards being named the tranny awards. Many of these women have a drag background such a Michelle Austin who has very recently crossed over into queer porn and starred in Transgrrrls. This came as a shock to me as a queer trans woman who always felt term was obscene and in no way comfortable with it being the name of an award honoring trans porn. It was clear I and the queers I came to LA were the minority with an objection to the term and mainstream performers/producers did nothing but respect our views and respect us.  

After thinking about this over a 6 hour car ride back to the bay it started to become clear to me “Why do we have a right to tell other trans women what term is correct for an award show that is largely theres?” I believe queer porn is at its core political and if our movement is truly about allowing people their own right to express themselves then what right do we have to say this is wrong? After this experience its been made clear to me that these trans women have taken back this term and made it there own.

I understand the term hit a raw nerve to some of us particularly in the queer community but allowing that to have us ignore so many of our trans sisters who are also porn performers is not okay. The kind of porn that is made within the queer community within my view is a very pure and special thing that much of the trans porn world knows nothing or little about. I had the chance to talk to Domino Presley about both of our views about the porn we make and truly we have many of the same problems and many of the same ideals we hold ourselves to within our work. Talking to Domino over the few days I was in LA it was clear she was a highly driven and strong woman who has made herself the trans porn icon she is today and talking to her and other mainstream performers about the porn I make really opened them to a new world they didn’t know truly existed and something they were extremely excited about. If queer/feminist porn is really about improving the porn world and trying to influence it the last thing I believe we should is boycott award shows and actually talk with mainstream performers and producers about our porn and collectively make the best possible trans porn.

Within mainstream porn there some are extremely problematic terms and the mainstream performers/producers I have talked to agree about the use of shemale amongst other terms are offensive and should be phased out and are starting to be phased out. I believe queer/feminist porn getting more influence within the mainstream world is something that could help push these problematic terms out.  We cannot expect the mainstream world to change for us to get involved but rather we need to get involved to be the change that we demand.

I could go in depth further into this and if you want to reblog this with any questions about my experience I would love to talk about it further and really hope more queer performers go next year to experience an award show where there are hundreds of other trans sex workers (a majority of them being trans women of color) and have active lines of communication with these talented performers.


This is the application of Critical Theory (a bit of science) to ideas, concepts, and powers around trans people and their lives.

This is, then, Trans Theory, and when people talk about how they don’t like trans theory, what they are talking about is not this.

What they are talking about is what they think Trans Theory is, which bears little to no relation to this.

If you want to understand why it is that calling a trans woman a man is an act of violence, read this.

If you want to understand why the arguments of TERFs are anti-intellectual and deeply conservative and not at all radical, read this.

If you want to understand why it is that “she is crazy” comments from TERFs about trans people are acts of violence, read this.

If you want to know why hating trans people is a bad idea, read this.

If you want to be less ignorant, less immoral, less incompetent when being violent to trans people by calling them men, read this.

It isn’t a joke or tease to say that TERFs will not read it. They won’t. They can’t. They also can’t speak against it without speaking against their own arguments, and even their very ideology.

They know that. It is safer for them to avoid it.

There are no more excuses for not understanding what trans theory is, and expecting random trans people to be experts in their lives is part of oppression.

Oh, and keep in mind that to TERFS, none of this makes sense. To them this reducing to plain language of core concepts of social work and human rights issues is gibberish, and not very scientific, and boring and too long to read despite being built on elements central to radical discourse of the liberal sort.

So take the time. And then watch how obvious it is that they are really good at lying to people.





can this be the year that libfem weaponised femininity and posts about red lipstick smashing the patriarchy end

Can this be the year that cis women stop forgetting that trans women exist, and that it’s different for us?

perhaps this could be the year white women recognize that it’s different for black women and shut all the way the fuck up about their intracommunity conversations on hair and red lipstick selfies and fast-tailed girls cos it’s awful tricky to weaponize a femininity you are denied access to

black cis women might not be misgendered in the same ways as white trans women are but they are misgendered constantly (and catch a whole lot of shit for being too masculine for the nice white ladies of the bog patrol whether they are cis or trans or neither)

let’s not forget that

^ YES, excellent point.

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You know what might be a great step in destigmatizing gender non-conformance, making the everyday lives of trans/non binary people safer and easier?

Deconstructing the culture of female hatred we live in, and questioning the need we seem to have for a whole set of identifying markers that are culturally reserved for “women” simply to mark them out as inferior.

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It does not matter if biology claims trans women are males.

Biology is not concerned with the violence done to people. Biology is not a shield to do violence to people, and indeed, the admittedly flawed models of colloquial biology often cited against trans women have also been used to justify and make excuses for violence against minority populations in oppressive systems.

Violence is still violence.

It is still immoral, still unethical, and defending it is immoral and unethical.

Psychology, sociology, anthropology, physiology, medicine — these sciences have all proven that calling a trans woman a man is violence.

So it doesn’t matter if biology says male when biology, itself, is being violent, according to other sciences.

Because that violence is still violence.

Violence is not limited to broken bones and bruised flesh and physical damage visible to the seeing (an ableist concept itself, so compounding the violence there).

It is words. Ask those fleeing persecution, read history, talk to survivors of child abuse and domestic violence and prison violence. Words are just as physically damaging - and according to many measures more so, since the brain treats those words no differently than it treats the body blows. It sends the chemicals out to the flesh and the organs and it sears synapses and it lasts long after the bruises and the broken bones have mended.

It has physical, measurable consequence, and it endures and we know that this applies even when it is strangers. The science establishes it.

This is fact. Not opinion.

Calling a trans woman a man is an act of violence, an assault, and those who do so are being violent, are being immoral, are being unethical. Silence in the face of violence is complicity, especially when that violence is social. Defense of calling a trans woman a man is defending violence.

Liking it, re blogging it without calling it out, these are forms of complicity. If you cannot tolerate violence against a woman, yet you can against a trans woman, who is also a woman, what sort of a person does this make you? What sorts of lessons are you teaching? How can you only oppose violence against some women?

Name it what it is. Don’t dress it up, don’t reduce it, it is violence. It is unethical. It is immoral. Shame those who do it, teach them it is wrong.

Because not doing so means you are complicit, means you are supporting, means you are not trying to stop violence against gay, lesbian, bisexual, and even straight people.

It means you are not trying to stop violence against people of color, against immigrants, against the disabled, against the poor.

It means you are standing by watching as someone does violence to another person. And that is immoral, unethical, and shameful.

Regarding why trans people say they have always felt like x or y, what they are trying to express in colloquial and layman’s terms is the concept of gender identity, now more commonly referred to as either social sex identity and physical sex identity, which it two concepts, each distinct.

Roughly translated, the whole thing means that a Trans person is aware that they are a woman, man, both, or neither, at the same core level as they are aware of themselves as a person, distinct from other people.

Some people would prefer to argue that what this is suggesting is that there is a “brain sex” — and yet, that’s not what this is describing. It is describing a sense of self-awareness — which, while decidedly part of the brain’s physiology, is really part of the existential notion that one exists, and therefore is not part of that argument, nor even related directly to biological systems (though many studies indicate such, I’m not going to reference such as biological essentialism of that sort is somewhat contrary to existential systems such as Transcentrism).

What that means, as well, is that this description has nothing whatsoever to do with biology, and, therefore arguments about biology aren’t valid when contradicting it. It would be akin to saying that the United States army shouldn’t exist because of broccoli.

This all comes together in the core aspect here: like sexual orientation, this is part of what creates the sense of self in people, and it therefore is part of how they know that they exist as an individual human being, and is a part of that.

So the same question of how you know can be answered in as many different ways as there are people, and it is the still same way that those asking the question know what their social sex identity is.

This effectively makes it the trans version of the question “how do you know you are gay?”, with the same accurate answer “I just do, because I know I exist.”

The answer may not satisfy those seeking some sort of concrete answer, but it is inevitable that they themselves, will discount any answer because for them the same question remains unanswered in a way they would accept from a trans person, usually due to cis privilege.

Everyday annoyances of being trans part eleventy bazillion


*ring ring*

Me: Hello?

Caller: Can I speak to Mr [Legal Name]?

Me: Yes, speaking.

Caller: I need to speak to Mr [Legal Name].

Me: Yes, that’s me; you’re speaking to me.

Caller: I don’t think that’s you.

Me: …Well, it is.

Caller: I need to speak to Mr [Full Legal Name].


Caller: Well, I’m going to end the call now because I don’t think that’s you.


I got their number off 1471. It’s a debt collection firm chasing my student loan. How the hell can you not believe someone when you phone them and they identify themselves? What possible motivation would I have to take someone else’s debt collection call? Grrrrrrr!

Lesbophobia is…



the whole concept of monosexual privilege. We cannot be privileged for the same reason we are oppressed. Grouping lesbians with gay men and straight people is lesbophobia. Saying we have any kind of privilege because we are lesbians is lesbophobia.

Apparently it’s time yet again for Oppression Olympics, with the “who within the QUILTBAG is privileged and who is subject to phobia” event. It’s the sport where everyone fucking loses!

"Trans folks were not only attacked by mainstream gay rights groups but also in their own neighborhoods. In the West Village, a gentrified gay neighborhood, trans sex workers, who were mostly homeless and of color, were kicked out of the streets by white gay homeowners because they were “low-class, vulgar transvestites” not the usual entertaining drag queens. A real-estate-driven Quality of Life campaign led by the city continually pushed for the closure of clubs where trans folks hung out. Fighting for trans rights is thus a class issue. Rivera, who was homeless herself, saw the link and pushed STAR to organize a community space for homeless trans folks as well as fight for labor justice. They found a building for street gay kids, fed them and clothed them, while the government was cutting the healthcare, taking away food stamps, and putting more people with AIDS, youth, and women on the street. In Leslie Feinberg Interviews Sylvia Rivera, Rivera reiterates the importance of not only doing community work but also fighting against the government and the ruling class. STAR joined the mass demonstration with the Young Lords, a revolutionary Puerto Rican youth group, against police repression in 1970. STAR also built alliances with the Housing Works Transgender Working Group and the New York Direct Action Nextwork Labor Group to form picket lines at a club where a trans dancer was dismissed from work. Fighting for trans rights is a class issue–to resist the rich property owners who push trans folks out of their neighborhoods, to confront the managers that try to fire trans workers, and to fight back against the state that cuts back healthcare."

Sylvia Rivera, transliberation, and class struggle. (via cielito-lindo)

It’s a class, race, and ability issue.
I have so much love for Syvia Rivera. She’s my hero.
Plus, you wanna talk about angry Transwomen?? How about the one who was throwing heels and molotov cocktails at Stonewall?

(via angrytransgirlsunited)

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i feel like most people (including me internalizing and externalizing it too) feel like it’s a lesser act of misgendering to refer to a non-binary person as the gender other than their assigned sex than it is to refer to them as their assigned sex

i think that’s because declaring yourself non-binary is seen as distancing yourself from your assigned sex, and in a binary system of gender when we think of distancing oneself from their assigned sex, that necessarily means you are moving in the direction of the other binary gender

and i get it’s hard to conceptualize things out of the dominant system that actually teaches us how to think

but this is a huge misunderstanding of what non-binary identities actually mean. and of course some nonbinary people identify closer to one binary gender than the other but that’s how they identify and non-binary genders are infinite and making a generalization about them ESPECIALLY one that assumes ALL non-binary people are closer to one binary gender than the other, that all of us even relate to either binary gender AT ALL, that we’re even on your little three point scale which is actually no less binary, it’s just not fucking true



I’m crying real tears rn

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Protesters Disrupt Police Review Board Meeting On Anniversary Of Kayla Moore’s Death

On the evening of February 12th, a small crowd gathered outside Gaia Apartments in downtown Berkeley to demand answers regarding the death of Kayla Moore, a black transgender woman who was killed by six Berkeley police officers in the apartment at the beginning of 2013.

The vigil and march was only the most recent action in a year-long campaign by Berkeley Copwatch and Kayla’s family after BPD refused to release the details of her death, which occurred after a ‘mental health evaluation’ ended in six BPD officers pinning her to the mattress and suffocating her.

None of the seven police officers present, all of whom are trained in emergency first aid, performed mouth-to–mouth resuscitation on Moore, which would have assisted her, because they considered her transgender status as something objectionable.

Kayla was detained by police for an outstanding San Francisco warrant they discovered for a Xavier Moore. While Kayla’s birth name was Xavier, the warrant described a man in his 60s, Moore was only 41 and should not have been mistaken for the other Moore, according to a lawsuit against the police.

The meeting was stormed by participants in the angry march as they shouted “Cops! Pigs! Murderers!” and took over the hearing to speak about Kayla’s murder and the review board’s inaction in investigation.

The board, of course, announced that they couldn’t tell Kayla’s family anything yet, but that the inquiry process was entering a second stage, which consists of a secret meeting at a secret time in which all of the officers would be interviewed and none of the transcripts would be publicly available.

The crowd berated officers and review board members and interrupted the meeting until it was over, but ultimately knew that the board had no intention of helping Kayla’s family get any answers. Berkeley Copwatch, however, is committed to continuing to help the Moore family get as many details as possible about Kayla’s death.

(via telegantmess)