- That nudity is inherently sexual
- That people should be judged for their personal decisions
- That yelling solves problems
- That they are too young to be talking about the things they’re already starting to ask questions about
- That age correlates to importance
- That interacting with someone of the opposite sex is inherently romantic
- That the default for someone is straight and cisgender
James W. Loewen, Lies My Teacher Told Me (via pupunahsh)
We hate him so much, but we don’t look at our own history.
here is what it’s like to be a trans woman: you get bombarded with all these little reminders that you’re not a woman, not really, everyday, and they’re not even malicious a lot of the time, and they’re from people who should know better, and for a while you try to respond to every little thing like this, to call out cisnormative bullshit everywhere you see it. but at some point you get tired and pretend they don’t bother you any more because you’re secure in who you are and they don’t really mean to hurt you anyway and maybe you even start to believe that, because believing it and forgetting about this stuff is easier than speaking up and making yourself feel like an outsider every single time it happens
Non-Physical Violence Against Trans Women is still Violence Against Trans Women
I was recently asked to “stay on the side of reality” in terms of calling out the decades of violence against trans persons by radical feminists, who are disavowing their responsibility for violence against trans people, and trans women, specifically, and are denying they are violent. As a result of this, I thought it would be a good idea to revisit the idea of what it is that Violence against Trans people, and specifically trans women, is composed.
Since this is often ignored by TERFs and related people, who then proceed to badger me for “sources” in a fallacious and dishonest attempt to misrepresent, deceive, mischaracterize, or undermine the reputation and character of my person and my work, I am repeating this post until such time as they reach an awareness of the violence they engage in, and as it is long and requires what one individual described as a dehydrating experience, I am once again going to place it as a quote, so that it might help in watching them struggle with large blocks of text marked only occasionally with images, similar to that humorous description of the experience noted here.
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In 2002, the World Health Organization complied a landmark study of worldwide violence. This was the The World report on violence and health. Representing a consensus of experts and scientists, peer reviewed multiple times over, and acting as the new foundation of broader support and understanding of the forces involved in tracking harmful, violent behavior, the report made it clear that there is a far more universal form of violence which is just as deadly as the aforementioned brutality. At this point, the WHO, a part of the medical and legal aspect of the United Nations, representing the vast majority of the nations, and principle informing body to the other well known aspect of the UN relating to Human and Civil Rights, is not broadly or widely disagreed with by professionals, although often lay people, uninformed or misinformed by such trite and false aphorism such as the “sticks and stones” childhood rhyme, remain unaware of the violence they are engaged in.
Two kinds of violence in particular are discussed at length, especially as they affect the lives of people in minority populations. These are psychological and deprivation/neglect.
Psychological violence includes and consists of the exclusion – or ostracism – of persons, and the application of stigma and societal efforts to deny them human dignity. So violence is also a core aspect and a major part of denying people their human and civil rights. This includes the violence of microaggressions (Sue, Derald Wing; Capodilupo, Christina M.; Torino, Gina C.; Bucceri, Jennifer M.; Holder, Aisha M. B.; Nadal, Kevin L.; Esquilin, Marta. Racial Microaggressions in Everyday Life: Implications for Clinical Practice. American Psychologist, v62 n4 p271-286 May-Jun 2007), developed out of the work of Dr. Chester Pierce, and further added to later by Mary Rowe. Microaggressions are a core concept in Critical Race Theory, and were brought into the mainstream of Feminist efforts and are often noted by Radical Feminist scholars such as Dr. Watkins, better known as bell hooks, in their critical race theory lensed approaches to feminism, which is directly oppositional to the sort of Radical Feminism, seen a colonialist, imperialist, white supremacist, and classist, and even admittedly so, given the background and privileges of the author and her advisor, who both drew heavily on their Catholic background and understanding in their work.
Deprivation/neglect consists of various forms of interpersonal, institutional, and consistent patterned violence that does not fundamentally include and consider the existence of trans people. This is called Ciscentrism, which is the normative pattern and the primary Axis of Oppression that trans people face, just like White Supremacy (racism), Patriarchy, Ableism, and so forth dominate other axes of oppression and are related form that work in tandem to oppress groups of people at a societal level. The effects of Deprivation and neglect all stem from the denial of basic human dignity, in this case, the most fundamental of which is recognizing that trans women are women, trans men are men, and as women and men, they are also female and male, since in English (and most other languages) those concepts are linked inextricably and creating separation is actively engaging in hostile action towards trans people. Trans people, as a rule, suffer multiple times higher than statistically normative rates of issues, and the only group that matches them, within the margin of error, are the adult survivors of child abuse and neglect.
What are some of the effects of this lifelong deprivation and neglect?
Poor physical health. Several studies have shown a relationship between various forms of household dysfunction (including childhood abuse) and poor health (Flaherty et al., 2006; Felitti, 2002). Adults who experienced abuse or neglect during childhood are more likely to suffer from physical ailments such as allergies, arthritis, asthma, bronchitis, high blood pressure, and ulcers (Springer, Sheridan, Kuo, & Carnes, 2007).
Poor mental and emotional health. In one long-term study, as many as 80 percent of young adults who had been abused met the diagnostic criteria for at least one psychiatric disorder at age 21. These young adults exhibited many problems, including depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and suicide attempts (Silverman, Reinherz, & Giaconia, 1996). Other psychological and emotional conditions associated with abuse and neglect include panic disorder, dissociative disorders, attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, depression, anger, posttraumatic stress disorder, and reactive attachment disorder (Teicher, 2000; De Bellis & Thomas, 2003; Springer, Sheridan, Kuo, & Carnes, 2007).
Social difficulties. Children who experience rejection or neglect are more likely to develop antisocial traits as they grow up. Parental neglect is also associated with borderline personality disorders and violent behavior (Schore, 2003).
Juvenile delinquency and adult criminality. According to a National Institute of Justice study, abused and neglected children were 11 times more likely to be arrested for criminal behavior as a juvenile, 2.7 times more likely to be arrested for violent and criminal behavior as an adult, and 3.1 times more likely to be arrested for one of many forms of violent crime (juvenile or adult) (English, Widom, & Brandford, 2004). THis one is particularly disturbing given that of late several TERFs on tumblr have taken to passing around a study and using it as proof that trans women are “male socialized”, which is an ostracizing argument, violent in and of itself, but in doing so, they are arguing that the victims of their historic, 40 year old pattern of abuse, noted by the publication of Dr, Raymond’s book which popularized their arguments, is a directly contributing cause of that violence through the ongoing and persistent abuse and neglect of trans people as children, which a significant number of them oppose the treatment of. That is victim blaming, and is ultimately contributing to the bullying an rape crises that are going on in the US at present.
Alcohol and other drug abuse. Research consistently reflects an increased likelihood that abused and neglected children will smoke cigarettes, abuse alcohol, or take illicit drugs during their lifetime (Dube et al., 2001). According to a report from the National Institute on Drug Abuse, as many as two-thirds of people in drug treatment programs reported being abused as children (Swan, 1998).
These are further divided into Interpersonal and Community forms of violence, which then means that violence can be noted in 20 distinct forms by which it can happen.
They developed, out of that, a definition of violence that is as follows:
“the intentional use of physical force or power, threatened or actual, against oneself, another person, or against a group or community, that either results in or has a high likelihood of resulting in injury, death, psychological harm, maldevelopment, or deprivation.”
The Bolded portions are what this post is going to focus on here.
The typology established distinguishes four modes in which violence may be inflicted:
- psychological attack
It further divides the general definition of violence into sub-types according to the victim-perpetrator relationship.
Self-directed violence refers to violence in which the perpetrator and the victim are the same individual and is subdivided into self-abuse and suicide. This demonstrates that suicide and self-abuse are directly caused by external forces which drive an individual to this sort of violence.
Interpersonal violence refers to violence between individuals, and is subdivided into family and intimate partner violence and community violence. The former category includes child maltreatment; intimate partner violence; and elder abuse, while the latter is broken down into acquaintance and stranger violence and includes youth violence; assault by strangers; violence related to property crimes; and violence in workplaces and other institutions. Assault is predominantly physical in terms of the way most people think of it, but it is also, as the image above demonstrates, non-physical, as is common especially among bullies and those who engage in domestic violence, which sets the stage and creates the opportunity for more physical violence by excusing that physical violence and establishing a pattern of blamelessness for the perpetrator and blame and fault for the victim.
Collective violence refers to violence committed by larger groups of individuals and can be subdivided into social, political and economic violence. When speaking about the ideology itself of a certain kind of radical feminism, this is kind of violence that the ideology, notably structured by the book written by Janice Raymond under the watchful tutelage of Mary Daly that popularized and more widely disseminated the popular opinions and stereotypes of trans people (conflating them with performance artists) that to this day are used by anyone who opposes the human dignity, and therefore the human and civil rights of trans persons, as tools of violent oppression and direct violence, relying on established institutional violence in a system that is centered around and focused on the lives of Cis people, in order to further these ends.
One of the more pervasive forms of this harm is exclusion — more formally described as Ostracism. Kipling D. Williams is one of the foremost researchers in this area of study, which has been ongoing for many years. Using thoroughly vetted methods, he has noted some startling factors that arise directly out of ostracism itself — with or without verbal derogation or physical assault (that means insults and related microaggressions).
Note that: without any sort of physical violence or even the use of slurs, there is violence done by the act of ostracism.
When one is ostracized, physically, the body receives such stimuli in the same way it receives a physical blow. That is, in controlled or uncontrolled situations, the act of ostracism, but itself, is felt by the body int he same way that a physical attack is felt.
The body reacts to them the same, with the physical blow simply involving more effort on the part of the body to heal, while with the nonphysical attack, the healing takes much, much longer.
“Being excluded is painful because it threatens fundamental human needs, such as belonging and self-esteem,” Williams said. “Again and again research has found that strong, harmful reactions are possible even when ostracized by a stranger or for a short amount of time.”
In his work, Dr. Williams has identified three stages of dealing with ostracism. The first stage is simply being ostracised. For trans people, the signals of ostracism come in many forms. Most of them have to do with aversion or anxiety about trans people or transness in general — that is to say, transphobia.
<p>Transphobia is the anxiety, aversion, and/or animus, singly or in any combination, towards trans people or Transness.</p>
<p>Anxiety is worry, concern, or anticipatory ideation relating to trans people or Transness. It includes prejudice against trans people, such as worrying about what they do in the restroom.</p>
<p>Aversion is the desire to avoid, the act of arguing to avoid or reduce encounters. It includes being unwilling to listen or accept factual,statements made by trans people. It also includes not wanting trans people in the restroom.</p>
<p>Animus is intense dislike, easily distinguished by overly concerned and reactionary language and violence, in any form. It includes agitating in the interest of preventing trans people from being In the restroom by law or policy.</p>
<p>Transness is the state of awareness or condition in society of someone who does not conform in a majority of aspects to the way their society or culture sees them as behaving and living in relation to their culture’s social construction of physiological sex, usually due to a variance between their physical sex and one or both of their social sex identity and/or internal sex identity.</p>
The persons who most commonly engage in this sort of violent activity, this violence against trans persons, and who are part of the system that encourages transphobia at both an interpersonal and community level (thus fostering greater violence and perpetuating the violence itself as part of an effort of genocide, justified through the call “I contend that the problem with transsexualism would best be served by morally mandating it out of existence." as promoted by Dr. Raymond in her bestselling book that has been noted as hate speech and that is often cited and referenced both directly and indirectly by those who oppose trans lives, rights, and liberties) are called Cis people.
Cisness is the state of awareness or condition in society of someone who does conform in a majority of aspects to the way their society or culture sees them as behaving and living in relation to their culture’s social construction of physiological sex, usually due to an alignment between their physical sex and both their social sex identity and/or internal sex identity. It exists at the same level as awareness of self, and it is, itself, an awareness.
Others have to do with aspects of social permissiveness — the things that one is allowed to do as a member of a particular class of persons and the things that others are not allowed to do as a result of not being in that class of persons.
This permissiveness is readily tracked in three ways, each of which applies as part of a whole:
- Innocence: I am not looked to as the cause of problems in a social group.
- Worthiness: I am presumed worthy of a social group’s trust and wealth.
- Competence: I am expected to be skillful, successful, and autonomous.
This particular aspect of permissiveness is often referred to as Dominant Class Privilege.
Dominant class privilege can be tested using a five step test:
- Membership: I am a member of a social group that is dominant through no action of my own, nor through being mistaken for a member of that social group.
- Stigma: I do not have stigma attached to me along that axis of oppression
- Innocence: I am not looked to as the cause of problems in a social group.
- Worthiness: I am presumed worthy of a social group’s trust and wealth.
- Competence: I am expected to be skillful, successful, and autonomous.
Being mistaken for something does not make one that thing.
Privilege is not lost: it is denied, it is taken, it is blocked. One cannot lose it, one is simply denied access to it, and that denial can only happen when one is removed from ones cultural milieu (thus changing who gets what privilege) or by not actually being a member of that social group that is privileged. Benefiting from privilege is not the same thing as possessing that privilege.
This is how privilege works; it is the antithesis of stigma. To understand privilege, you must understand stigma. The effect of Stigma is Ostracization, and so the act of employing stigma against a stigmatized population is an act of violence.
In the case of Trans people, the Dominant Class is persons who are not intersex and who are not Trans — that is, persons who are otherwise typical and common, the majority or persons in the world. These people are referred to as Cis persons.
These persons may find themselves dealing situationally with perceived membership in the class of trans and/or intersex persons, but they are not actually within those categories. This is called an intersectional blocking of privilege.
The messages that trans people are told are often about there being something wrong with them are part of Stigma. They also receive messages about how what they are doing is wrong, or about how they are behaving is wrong, and when those messages are combined with the ones they have received all their lives and internalized – taken into themselves – these message serve to reinforce and often mirror the idea that something is wrong with them.
When trans people reach out initially, those first tentative steps they take only with people they trust in ways that they find almost impossible to do with other people, they ask some variant of the question “what is wrong with me” or they state, bluntly, “there is something wrong and I need to fix it” and they are referring to themselves.
This is the power of stigma – an unseen mark that connotes the lack of value and unworthiness of a person.
Social stigma is the extreme disapproval of or discontent with a person or group because of being different in some way, that are perceived, and separate them, from other members of a society. Stigma is then applied to a person, by the greater society, who differs from their cultural norms.
Stigmatized people see others in three distinct ways:
- the stigmatized are those who bear the stigma;
- the normals are those who do not bear the stigma; and
- the wise are those among the normals who are accepted by the stigmatized as “wise” to their condition
- The wise come in two forms:
- Active wise, who speak out to effect change in the stigma; and
- Passive wise, who remain socially silent.
- The wise come in two forms:
Stigmatization involves dehumanization, demonization, threat, policing, aversion, shaming, and sometimes the depersonalization of others into stereotypes. Stigmatizing others can work as self-esteem enhancement, control enhancement, and anxiety buffering, through comparing oneself to less fortunate others, and so increase one’s own subjective sense of well-being and one’s self-esteem.
Policing other women can only ever serve the oppression of women. Policing is an act of oppression, an effort in service to ideology over humanity, a moment of support for the patriarchy.
The radical feminism of TERFs on tumblr is built on policing other Women, structured around anti and negatives, and in fact and truth is a means of division in service to patriarchy.
Consider that for a moment. People actually benefit from the act of stigmatizing others, emotionally. It isn’t rational – but people, by and large, are not rational beings.
This is part of why it is noted that Trans women, specifically, are eroticized, being exotic in their perceived natures, and so objectified, as women, but are also treated as the objects of ire more broadly. They are objects of desire as Women, and objects of Ire as Trans people, a particular combination that exists only for trans people, and does apply to a lesser extent to Trans men and non-binary/GNC trans people as well.
Stigma can enter into a person when they live with it for a great deal of time. It becomes a part of the way they think about themselves, about things related to themselves, and become s a part of their goals.
Passing is an example of internalized stigma – it serves within the community to act as a manner by which the stigma experienced by trans people can be avoided through “fitting in” – that is, meeting the expectations and following the rules of the broader culture and oppressive structures.
Being an Ally is often expected to involve being an Active Wise, and when an Active Wise fails to fully understand the nature of the stigmas, or errs in including stigma in their own actions, they are often the targets of ire, which serves to unintentionally convert them into passive wise, when such anger should be seen as a loss of trust and a call and appeal to do better and improve.
The second stage of dealing with ostracism is Coping.
Coping usually means the person being ostracized tries harder be included. The way they do that may vary. For example, some of those who are ostracized may be more likely to engage in behaviors that increase their future inclusion by mimicking, complying, obeying orders, cooperating or expressing attraction. Others may seek to connect with persons who are similarly ostracized, creating an Affinity Group (or in-group), and possibly even advocate for changes to the social norms. In yet other cases — and in particular if there is something that gives them a sense that they are being ostracized by a larger group, or they gain the sense that it isn’t possible to gain inclusion, or they come to feel or be told that they have little control over their lives (such as by being told that their knowledge of themselves is invalid or untrue, as frequently happens with Trans people when they are told they are not women), they may turn to provocative behavior and even aggression, such as when this happens between two groups that are oppressed under two different axes of oppression — especially when there are aspects of situational membership shared.
“They will go to great lengths to enhance their sense of belonging and self-esteem,” is how Williams describes it. However, ”At some point, they stop worrying about being liked, and they just want to be noticed.”
This can lead — especially among competing out-groups — to internal warfare and the creation of ideologies and statements of outright hostility. This is the collective and interpersonal violence noted previously.
The example most readily found of this is the way that TERF’s engage with Trans people. At this point, after 40 years of open hostility between the two out-groups, they are constantly engaged in a series of escalating aggression and provocative behavior. This is most notable in the way that Terfs call trans women men and then say Kill all men, and the way that trans women say die cis scum. While both are acts of violence done by each side against the other, it should be noted that the trans response to the consistent, 40 year pattern of outright hostility that was sparked and established by the publication of Dr. Raymond’s hate speech laden book, “The Transsexual Empire, the Making of the She-Male”, which is also the point at which the slur she-male entered the public lexicon, as documented by its etymology in the popular usage, thus meaning that Radical feminists also contributed to the fetishization that Dr. Raymond was, herself, claiming to be in opposition to, by providing a readily recognizable term for the Porn industry that she still opposes to this day.
All of which comes to a head in the incredibly hostile statement “kill yourself” which is a direct act of violence with an often deadly outcome.
When ostracization continues for a long time — decades, in this case — the third stage, called Resignation, is reached. At this point, many simply give up.
“This is when people who have been ostracized are less helpful and more aggressive to others in general,” says KD WIlliams. “It also increases anger and sadness, and long-term ostracism can result in alienation, depression, helplessness and feelings of unworthiness.”
Trans people, as a general rule, are in the third stage for the most part. This is particularly true for those who transition as adults, but still applies in many situations to those who transition as children. The long term effects of ostracism are incredibly damaging to people, as a whole, and all major pediatric organizations look at it as a form of child abuse and neglect — for good reason.
The issues that face the adult survivors of child abuse and neglect are massive and potent ongoing social issues that are merely exacerbated by the constant interpersonal and community attacks that trans people experience from TERFs.
As I’ve noted previously in discussing how to identify transphobia and the argument of ostracism that is the male socialization argument, these attacks are harsh, critical, dehumanizing, overt acts of violence that are based in the presence within a Dominant Class and are founded on the principles of Ciscentrism, which is opposed by Transcentrism. I discuss some of the specifics about how this oppression is engaged in various posts such as here, here, and here.
Williams says “Endure ostracism too long and they’re depleted. You don’t have it in you to cope, so you give up. You become depressed, helpless, and despairing.” Even memories of long-ago rejection can bring up those feelings.
His work, widely cited and broadly available, lays out the foundation for the manner in which trans people are actively and intentionally harmed through acts of violence that include microaggressions, psychologically damaging verbal attacks, and active efforts at exclusion and using existing stigma and shame against trans people in both externalized and internalized varieties, preying on low self esteem and insecurities of trans people (in particular, those going through the crisis point of transition, which is an incredibly fragile time and is, itself, an act of overt and fundamental hostility to another person during a time of incredibly personal and psychological vulnerability), and acting as if in concert with larger forces (such as those on the religious right and those within patriarchy) to create a powerful and potent mix of violence that has the appearance of being socially sanctioned in an environment where such behavior is not only tolerated, but often encouraged (social media).
This is the violence against trans people that is often talked about — it need not be a clue by four to the skull to have the same effect, and indeed, when combined with the life history of such experiences, it makes it an outright act of cruelty, inhumane in its force, and absolutely an act of violence.
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Now, the next time you see them whine about “sources”, or talk about how what they do isn’t really violence, copy and paste this in response to them.
Each time and every time. Don’t add anything else. Just this, and then shift your attention away.
AED (Toni D’orsay), excerpted and adapted from Liberating Transness.
How To Spot A Transphobe (and transphobia is violence)
Here, in a new, expanded edition of four easy lessons, is how to spot a transphobe.
Transphobes are known for their ignorance, incompetence, dishonesty, violence, bigotry, prejudice, immorality and lack of ethics, but sometimes spotting the things that make those points true can be tricky.
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So here are 40+ simple ways to spot a transphobe.
1: If they think that cis has something to do with liking your body
2: If they think that cis has something to do with the clothes you wear or makeup
3: if they think that being trans has something to do with liking your body.
4: if they think that beings trans has something to do with the clothes you wear or make up
5: If they think that cis is a slur
6: If they think that gender is not composed of three to five distinct elements
7: If they think that being trans is a mental illness
8: If they think that being cis is a bad thing.
9: If they think that cis privilege has anything to do with someones’s sex or gender
10: If they think that biology says that trans women are male.
11: If they think that the points above are limited just to trans women, since we are talking about trans folk. Note that these are exemplars based on actual ideas held by people who hate trans people, and so the assertions are equally valid for all trans folk along the spectrum.
12: If they make an argument against trans women that features the idea of “male socialization”, yet never note the way this argument relies on racism because they don’t understand how it does so.
13: If they think calling a trans woman a man or male is not violence. Bonus: they are not only ignorant, they are also violent.
14: If they ever say ” it’s not like i ever go out of my way to message anyone ever and trigger them intentionally”, and pretend like their stuff doesn’t show up in tags or is reblogged or is said in public on tumblr since tumblr is a platform designed intentionally to make things visible to other people.
15: If they think that “gender abolition” is not a dog whistle for genocide of trans people.
16: If they think that bodily autonomy is great for women, but bad for for trans women by arguing that trans women have no place in the pro-choice movement.
17: If they are against sex work and never speak about how trans women of color are driven into it by the same forces that drive cis women of color into it and at the same ages.
18: If they think that trans women cannot be lesbians or that trans men cannot be gay men.
19: If they think that despite holding any of the items in this list they are an ally of the trans community.
20: If they argue that trans women represent a danger to cis women.
21: If they disagree with the term Cis.
22: If they think that Transness is a mental illness named gender dysphoria
23: If they argue that gender is a social construct but argue that sex is not a social construct.
24: If they argue against unisex restrooms because of risks associated with trans women.
25: If they argue for female only space instead of cis only space (these are two different things)
26: If they say they don’t hate trans people but use arguments that rely on seeing trans women as men, not only are they ignorant, they are also violent and hypocritical.
27: If they think that the treatment for trans children isn’t based on decades of research and study by experts in pediatric care.
28: if they think that Transness has always been a mental illness when it wasn’t introduced until after homosexuality was removed.
29: If they they think that trans women are just homophobic gay men.
30: If they say that trans women are not women because womanhood is not a feeling or identity
31: If they don’t agree with Trans Theory and think trans theory is the stuff from lesson one.
32: If they say things like cis privilege has something to do with a person’s “mode of presentation”
33: If they say things like “How can I, as someone who doesn’t subscribe to gender politics and does not have a gender identity, be “cis”?” Right before describing themselves as cis people.
34: If they say terf is a slur
35: If they argue for separate but equal like trans woman/ cis woman restrooms
36: If They say that a trans woman Ina relationship with another woman is “straight”
37: If they get upset at the idea of a women’s space including trans women
38: If they think that trans men in a women’s space is ok
39: If they think that when people say they are being essentialist, they leap to the conclusion it is about biological essentialism and never think about what the person says routinely.
40: If they make a habit of being violent, dishonest, prejudiced, bigoted, aversive, anxious, incompetent, ignorant, immoral, and unethical when it comes to trans people.
41: if they post any quote from Sheila Jeffreys, Julie Bindel, or Janice Raymond on their blogs without pointing out how they are all deeply transphobic
42: if they think that it is reasonable for trans people to engage in dialog with people who are violent towards them but refuse to acknowledge that violence.
43: If they think “cotton ceiling” is about forcing lesbians to have sex.
44: If they reference “Gender Identity Watch” or “OWL”.
45: If they talk about “redefining woman” the same way folks talk about “redefining marriage”. Like Aunty Orthodox does.
46: If they talk about gender as if it is not the way that society deals with physiological sex.
47: If they use phrases like “womyn born womyn”, “women born female”, or a half dozen other variations of the same thing.
48: If they
49: If they
50: If they
Any single one of those things is proof that the person involved has no idea what they are talking about and is actively engaged in worrying about the risks of, feeling disgusted or sickened by trans people or things around transness, fears being around trans people, or harbors an intense dislike of trans people.
All of which are forms of transphobia, an irrational mindset that affects their ability to accurately and honestly deal with the larger world around them.
Transphobia comes from one or more of three distinct mindsets: Aversion, Anxiety, and Animus.
Aversion is things like being disgusted, in opposition to, identifying something as repugnant, and exhibiting strong feelings about this. Example: getting agitated by the idea of a trans woman in the locker room.
Anxiety is distress, worry, concern, and overt anxiousness about something or someone that is strongly expressed in physical, literal, or metaphorical terms. Example: not wanting a trans woman in the locker room.
Animus is a strong and intense dislike. It involves devaluing the lives of people, erasing their dignity, opposing their civil and human rights, denying them the ability to mark themselves,and outright harm to them. Example: trying to stop a law passed using the argument that a trans woman might be in a locker room, or that trans women as a class are a danger to women.
So any of those thing, either individually or in combination, is what makes up transphobia.
People saying the 40 plus things noted above are ignorant of that, and ignorant as well of their own transphobia, and so think that what they are saying has some sort of value critically. Since none of them are true, there is no critical value in the statements, since they are essentially making shit up as they go.
Transphobes are dangerous. They are violent, they are dishonest, and they are both immoral and unethical. Confronting Transphobes often leads to gang attacks on Tumblr, and so it is not recommended that you confront a transphobe directly, unless you have the stomach and time for it.
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The woman that transphobes think runs a whole bunch of different sites online, and whom they really hate seeing. Absolutely feel free to pass this around as broadly as you can. And feel free to ask questions if you have some.
Something that really bugs me is when people say to me, “Nobody deserves to be raped, and it’s never the victim’s fault, but they should know better than to put themselves in risky situations.” This is usually in reference to someone who went out clubbing or partying and was drinking or doing drugs and was sexually assaulted. I don’t understand how you can say in the same sentence that the victim is not to blame, but they should also know better. When you say something like that, you are saying the victim could have prevented it, so in some way it is the victim’s fault.
Sexual violence is never a consequence of walking alone at night, drinking, doing drugs, hanging out with a man or woman alone, etc. Sexual violence is a consequence of a culture that encourages violence and sexism. If that survivor hadn’t gotten drunk that night, the perpetrator would have found someone else to assault. The only way to prevent sexual violence is to hold perpetrators accountable, educate the community, and create safety and support for survivors.
Nobody ever “had it coming”. Nobody ever deserves sexual violence. Nobody.
I honestly, honestly think that is some of the reasons why the race parties are such a horrible fad on college campuses. They are carrying on what we did in elementary school. Let’s make culture a party! Everyone bring your cultural food and put on a costume! The racism is present and good percentage of the participants are really expressing deep rooted racism. But some truly don’t want to “understand why it’s wrong” when they are re-enacting what we used to do with culture in elementary schools. Culture was supposed to be fun. “I don’t understand why you are mad now? I thought culture was a party!” Party’s over kids. Put down the head-dress."
— Brian Henry (via theteej)