That’s from the awful The Hathor Legacy blog post I keep reblogging. I don’t want to steal his thunder but that man I happen to be engaged to, ksej, pointed out that men do derive power from giving their partners orgasms. At least some do. I know from my own experience that part of what men brag…
Also, I can think of few things more empowering than doing something you enjoy while knowing that the person(s) you are doing it with are completely at your mercy. Really, giving blow jobs puts you in an extreme position of power over the person attached to the genitals you are working with; they pray for pleasure, but there’s no denying that their pain could result instead. They trust you to not harm them, and trust is not only sexy as all get out, it’s empowering on its own.
Yes, you got it! I love that feeling of power, of having someone’s trust, of rewarding someone’s trust. That someone refuses to believe that this exists is their problem, not mine. Disbelief doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.
I’ve written about the vulnerability thing though. Be warned, I describe a sexual assault there. Just because you trust someone not to bite you doesn’t mean you are vulnerable if you wield institutional power over them.
I brought up the sense of power from sexual acts, and JK responded with “Well rapists feel a sense of power from sexual acts too.”
And I threw up my hands.
Women giving blowjobs are totes the same as rapists. FFS, this passes for thoughtful analysis?