lubiddu:

karnythia:

People complain about babies eating, crying, or you know being babies on any kind of transit. So, are we now saying babies aren’t allowed to exist in public? That women who have opted to have children shouldn’t expect any social support at all? Interesting attitude given the huge push to limit reproductive freedoms, & destroy any social safety nets that might help mothers care for their children. What exactly are women supposed to do, have kids & then vanish from the public eye entirely?

I’m floored by the idea that the mother was just supposed to immediately exit the bus the instant her baby pooped, then hoof it so some restroom, somewhere (since we all know that there are restrooms open to the general public on every block, right?), then hop back on the next bus going in the direction of the doctor’s office and pay a second fare to do so. exactly where was this diaper changing supposed to take place? For a sick child, no less?

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“Puberty suppression is child abuse!”

tal9000:

What this actually means is “I’m going to scream ‘child abuse’ to try to stop your kid from exerting agency in a way I don’t approve of”

Puberty suppression isn’t given to kids on the parents’ whims. It isn’t given on the doctor’s whims. It’s given because the kid asked for it. Actually, that might be better said, given the levels of cissexism a trans kid would be expected to deal with, it’s given because the kid fought for it.

Calling “child abuse” on giving the kid a necessary medical treatment that they fought for because you don’t approve of it is beyond disgusting.

tal9000:

The Intersex Roadshow: Trans and Intersex Children: Forced Sex Changes, Chemical Castration, and Self-Determination

Children’s lives lie at the center of social struggles over trans gender and intersex issues. If you talk with trans and intersex adults about the pain they’ve faced, the same issue comes up over and over again, from mirror-image perspectives: that of medical interventions into the sexed body of the child. Intersex and trans adults are often despairing over not having had a say as children over what their sexes should be, and how doctors should intervene. Meanwhile, transphobes and the mainstream backers of intersex “corrective” surgery also focus on medical intervention into children’s bodies. They frame interventions into the sexual characteristics of intersex children as heroic and interventions into the bodies of trans children as horrific.

The terms and claims that get tossed around in these debates are very dramatic. Mutilation. Suicide. Chemical castration. Forced sex changes.

We need to understand what’s going on here, because it’s the central ethical issue around which debates about intersex and trans bodies swirl. The issue here is the question of self-determination, of autonomy. Bodily autonomy is the shared rallying cry of trans and intersex activists, though we might employ it in opposite ways. Refusing it to us is framed as somehow in our best interests by our opponents.

In this post we will look at how four groups frame the issue: intersex people, trans people, the mainstream medical professionals who treat intersex people, and opponents of trans rights.

Read the whole thing

Read the whole thing. The more I read of Intersex Roadshow, the more I love it.  The lack of respect for the autonomy of children is disgusting.  Though, it’s not like non-privileged people get much more respect as adults…

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ixamxdecadence:

moonbutterfly:

So cute♥

SO MANY FEEEEELING!!!!

Baby fever topped up again.  <3

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"One experience that the overwhelming majority of maternity-home residents, and many white unwed mothers who did not make it to these homes, did share was the experience of giving their babies up for adoption. In the years before Roe v. Wade the experts were, again, pretty unanimously agreed that only the most profoundly disturbed unwed mothers kept their babies, instead of turning them over to a nice, middle-class man and woman who could provide the baby with a proper family. Leontine Young, the prominent authority on social casework theory in the are of unwed mothers, cautioned in 1953, “the caseworker has to clarify for herself the differences between the feelings of the normal [married] woman for her baby and the fantasy use of the child by the neurotic unmarried mother.”

For complex cultural, historical, and economic reasons, black, single pregnant women were not, in general, spurned by their families or shunted out of their communities into maternity homes, which usually had “white only” policies in any case. For the most part, black families accepted the pregnancy and made a place for the new mother and child. As one Chicago mother of a single black pregnant teenager said at the time, “It would be immortal to place the baby [for adoption]. That would be throwing away your own flesh and blood.” In contrast to the very large percentage of white girls and women who gave up their babies for adoption, about nine out of ten blacks kept theirs. In a postwar New York study, 96 percent of blacks keeping their babies reported deep satisfaction with this decision eighteen months later. Yet welfare and social caseworkers persisted for years in their claims that the only reason why blacks kept their babies was that no one would want them.

Social workers and other human service professionals claimed repeatedly that black single pregnancy was the product of family and community disorganization. Yet in comparing the family and community responses and blacks and whites to out-of-wedlock pregnant and childbearing, it is striking how the black community organized itself to accommodate mother and child while the white community was totally unwilling and unable to do so. The white community simply organized itself to expel them Still, black girls and women who became pregnant while single faced a forceful array of prejudices and policies threatening to the well-being of poor, minority, single mothers and their children."

Rickie Solinger, Wake Up Little Susie: Single Pregnancy and Race Before Roe v. Wade

I’ve barely started this book and already have a bunch of passages marked.

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this reminds me of what BA was saying about how white people treat *each other* horribly. and are dumbfounded and pissed and disbelieving when they find out POC don’t treat each other so poorly.

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blinkpink:

My lisp is strong today… but I felt like making a video anyway.

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[So I was in the bathroom, thinking, like ya’ do, and I ran up against a deep thought.

One of the biggest hurdles for relationships (romantic, platonic, professional, whatever) where one or more of the partners are autistic is that as a society, we teach our children how to have relationships with allistics.

Here, I’ll give you an example:

“Go hug your aunt, you haven’t seen her in years!”
“But I don’t want to.”
“That’s rude, you do it immediately.”

Now, while this scenario is not a unique experience to just autistics, it rather proves my point. You are expected to do uncomfortable things (sometimes involving unwanted sensory input) just because it is what a completely outgoing, mentally healthy, allistic individual would do.

Nobody’s teaching their kid though about consent before touch, about divergent behaviors and autistic behaviors that are considered “unsocial”. Nobody’s teaching their kids how to have relationships with autistics. And that effects your far into the future. Like, Howie and I approach each other expecting the other to act like an allistic (or neurotypical in general), which is just not realistic to our natural interactions. It causes a lot of conflict.

So. Yeah. I have no ending so I take a small bow.*]


*totally taken from George Carlin. Homage, man, homage…

Just respecting children’s autonomy would be such a big step forward for auties (and alltistics for that matter).

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Raising a feminist/anarchist to dismantle the kyriarchy

telegantmess:

jarl-ulfric:

wingsunfolding:

socialjusticeally:

smirkingbenevolence:

We’re rocking out to my political punk Pandora station here at the house. Squishy (our 10 month old) is enjoying their self immensely. They got a lot of punk and folk in utero so it only makes sense….

Lots of singing, dancing and smiling from this Squishy.

Train your children young to dismantle the hetero/cis/male/white-centric capitalist kyriarchy.

Nothing like independent development of thoughts and opinions!

“Train” your kids, folks.

Freethinkers.

How about ‘training’ your kids to develop the skills necessary in facilitating their growth into responsible mature adults? Nah, better to instill a victim complex before they’re old enough to spell h-o-r-s-e-s-h-i-t.

Also, ‘they/their? Please don’t tell me you’re projecting your own distorted sense of self onto a 10 month old infant? 

This is fucking disgusting. Will you reprimand it when it learns to talk and (in all likelihood) expresses an innate/un-imposed interest in toys and activites appropriate to its gender? What will you say then? Will re-education and personality correction be on the agenda?

People like you really should not be having kids. You’ve given your child an identity before it has even opened its mouth to declare what it thinks it is. Is that the sort of treatment radical, free-thinking parents render onto their infants? Bring down the binaries and replace them with your own ones. Absurd.

Guess what? You’re opinion about whether we should have kids or not is irrelevant. US QUEERS CAN BREED and you can’t do jack shit to stop us.

And if you think there is such a thing as innate, unimposed interest in specific gendered anything, then you need to do something about that rock you live under. Or tell me where this vacuum exists that you apparently think you were raised in.

Seriously, y’all. One post about what music we listen to at home tells you all this about how we raise our child? TEACH ME YOUR PSYCHIC WAYS, OH OMNIPOTENT DOUCHEBAGS!

Fear of us queers breeding, fear of queer kids, fear of letting children discover the world and identify themselves instead of imposing reality on them, fear that their lies will be obvious when we don’t conform… so much fear.  Fear of a queer planet (with apologies to NWA).

Tags: queer children

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isamiahmed:

This is my mum.

When she was 13 years old she was married to a violent paedophile in Bangladesh.

She is not alone; 10 million child brides a year are sold into marriage. They spend their whole lives being treated inhumanely. 

How can you help?

I just try to do what is right and I need your support to make a positive change.

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12 year old to receive life sentence?

youarenotyou:

newwavefeminism:

midwestmountainmama:

hupsoonheng:

esmeweatherwax:

martaunderthesea:

Cristian Fernandez is only 12 years old. And if Florida prosecutor Angela Corey has her way, he’ll never leave jail again.

Cristian hasn’t had an easy life. He’s the same age now as his mother was when he was born. He’s a survivor of physical, emotional, and sexual abuse. In 2010, Cristian watched his stepfather commit suicide to avoid being charged with abusing Cristian.

Last January, Cristian was wrestling with his 2-year-old brother, David, and accidentally broke David’s leg. Despite this, their mother left Cristian with his brother again in March. While the two boys were alone, Cristian allegedly pushed his brother against a bookcase, and David sustained a head injury. After their mother returned home, she waited six hours before taking David to the hospital. David eventually died.

Now Cristian is being charged with first degree murder — as an adult. He’s the youngest person in the history of his Florida county to receive this charge, and his next hearing is scheduled for tomorrow.

Melissa Higgins works with kids who get caught up in the criminal justice system in her home state of New Hampshire. When she read about Cristian’s case, she was appalled — so she started a petition on Change.org asking Florida State’s Attorney Angela Corey to try Cristian as a child. Please sign Melissa’s petition immediately before Cristian’s hearing tomorrow.

As part of his prosecution, Cristian has been examined by two different forensic psychiatrists — each of whom concluded that he was “emotionally underdeveloped but essentially reformable despite a tough life.”

Cristian has already been through more than most of us can imagine — and now the rest of his life is in the hands of a Florida prosecutor who wants to make sure Cristian never leaves jail. 

The purpose of the juvenile justice system is to reform kids who haven’t gotten a fair shake. If Cristian is sent to adult prison, it will be more than a tragedy for him — it will also be a signal to other prosecutors that kids’ lives are acceptable collateral in the quest to be seen as “tough on crime.” 

Cristian’s next hearing is in just 24 hours. State’s Attorney Angela Corey needs to know that her actions are being watched — please sign the petition asking her not to try Cristian as an adult:

http://www.change.org/petitions/reverse-decision-to-try-12-yo-cristian-fernandez-as-an-adult

Thanks for being a change-maker,

- Michael and the Change.org team

Shock horror, it’s not a white kid this is happening to. HE’S TWELVE. He should never have been left alone with a toddler, fucking ell.

And his mother waited six hours before taking David to the hospital? A twelve year old abused kid shouldn’t be charged with murder, even if he was being tried as a juvenile, for roughhousing with his brother when he’s too young to supervise younger children, and especially not with a negligent parent like that. 

I’m sorry, but the answer to the unjust horrifically violence “justice” system is NOT to turn the glare of the system on mothers instead of their kids. Do we have any idea why she left him alone? Was it because of the welfare work programs that make it so you can only get money if you work? Was it because she has an untreated mental health issue/addiction? Was it because she said fuck it, haha, I’m going to go sit in this park and let my kid fuck up my other kid? 

And as far as waiting six hours—head injuries are notoriously hard to understand the symptoms to—how many horror stories are there about a person who was “just fine”—and wound up dying three days later from a seemingly not so bad head injury? Natasha Richardson took a not so bad fall on a skying trip and wound up dead. 

I am not defending mothers at the expense of their children’s lives—I’m instead saying that to be poor, to be a woman in an abusive situation, to have “resources” like “keep your legs shut” or “it’s not my job to take care of your brats”—it’s just as much of a tragedy as what is happening to this boy. Because when you fuck around with a mother, when you deny her resources—you are *necessarily* denying her children resources. A part of making sure bullshit like life imprisonment for a 12 year old doesn’t happen anymore is valuing their youth enough to *empower their caretakers.*

all of this. even the original Change.org letter sorta kinda threw the mother under the bus in a way that makes me uncomfortable. If we’re going to fight for change and justice than we need to make sure we acknowledge ALL of the institutional factors at play in the lives of the people we’re fighting for.

yes, this commentary

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The brilliant Emily Manuel on why trans children are treated better than trans adults.  Read it.

[Full Disclosure: Both Emily and the owner of the blog, Arwyn, are friends of mine.]

(Source: bohemianarthouse)

Tags: trans children

"In an era when many feminists are (in my opinion rightly) dismayed by the suggestion that a woman’s right to an abortion should be subject to conditions, I have been shocked by the high level of acceptance when it comes to the notion that women who formula feed should be forced to justify their choice, not only to medical staff, but to pro-breastfeeding women. While I have never seen anyone claim that formula is better than - or even equal to - breast milk, a large number of women are vociferously and uncompromisingly against a woman’s right to choose formula milk. I have witnessed a sizeable number of women, some of whom are self-declared feminists, debating on one another’s social media profiles and calling for formula to be made illegal."

Lorrie Hearts, at the f word.

This whole post - which is about a hospital ceasing to provide free formula to the women who give birth there in an effort to be “baby friendly” - is a great, important read. I just want to add one thing, though. Hearts writes that she’s never seen anyone claim that formula is better or the same as breastmilk.  Well, for me, formula feeding was absolutely, 100% better than breastfeeding. Like, life changing better. I wrote a column earlier this year about it, so I won’t rehash the whole thing here. But truly, refusing to give mothers access to formula is not “baby friendly” or helpful - it’s shaming and in some cases could be very dangerous. Enough already.

(via jessicavalenti)

And this shows where Valenti goes wrong.  She says that because formula feeding was better than breastfeeding for her that formula is better than breastmilk.  No, never, not true.  That’s a failure in facts and logic.  Formula has less health benefits to babies than breastmilk.  Now, this doesn’t mean formula should never be used but it is a huge downside of it that it is markedly inferior to breastmilk.  Thus, formula feeding may be best in a situation but that never means that formula is better than breastmilk.

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The joys of a precocious child (w/naked Lucy!)

  • ksej is talking to his young child, xCLP (for eX-Cute Little Parasite), and xCLP asked what colour clothes I was wearing:
  • ksej: "I dunno, she might not be wearing anything. She often isn't when we talk."
  • xCLP: "Is she in bed, wearing her nightdress?"
  • ksej: "She doesn't wear a nightdress."
  • xCLP: "She has to."
  • ksej: "Well, when I was staying with her, she slept with nothing on."
  • xCLP: "That's because you were poking her bottom."
  • ksej: "..."

christinathena:

[Image description: A set of screenshots from the Daily Show’s “Indecision 2012: The Great Right Hope”.  The first image shows Michelle Bachmann speaking saying “One thing I know is that kids need …” second image is Jon Stewart saying “Love”, third image is Michelle Bachmann again “Kids need jobs.” End description]

showbizservo:

Michelle Bachmann pretty much acts exactly like my mom.

Yeah, put those kids to work!  Like in the good old days before all those child labor laws!  What better place for a kid than a 12-hour shift at the factory!  </sarcasm>

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"People love to have mercy and sympathy for everything, from the animals to the whales to fur, everything.. Except us; your youth. The ones you give no attention to, who become adults with no compassion. I feel like if you’re walking down the street, walking on some concrete, and you see a rose growing out of concrete, even if it had messed up petals or its a little, you know, to the side, you would marvel at just seeing a rose grow from concrete. So why is it that when you see some ghetto kid grow out of all of the dirtiest circumstances, and he can talk and he can sit across from you and make you smile, make you cry, make you laugh, all you’re gonna talk about is my dirty rose, my dirty stems, and how I’m leaning crooked to the side? You can’t even see that I came up out of that shit. And that’s exactly the analogy that I use for me."

Tupac Amaru Shakur (via comingbackwithpower)

Truth.

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