A new blog post about fluidity of ideas & identity, queer failure, and my ~~~journey as a blogger~~~
(Source: mattachinereview)
“Puberty suppression is child abuse!”
What this actually means is “I’m going to scream ‘child abuse’ to try to stop your kid from exerting agency in a way I don’t approve of”
Puberty suppression isn’t given to kids on the parents’ whims. It isn’t given on the doctor’s whims. It’s given because the kid asked for it. Actually, that might be better said, given the levels of cissexism a trans kid would be expected to deal with, it’s given because the kid fought for it.
Calling “child abuse” on giving the kid a necessary medical treatment that they fought for because you don’t approve of it is beyond disgusting.
Goddamn I’m sick of people’s binarist shit. (TW for abuse)
I’m so fucking sick of non-binary people being reduced to our ASAB for the sake of an argument.
I’m so fucking sick of our lived experiences counting for NOTHING.
I’m so fucking suck of people assuming shit about our bodies, our experiences, the way we function in society (or not)….
I’m so fucking sick of people treating this like it’s a fucking fad or some shit. Like we decided this overnight…. just woke up one day and thought “You know what would be great? To make up a gender so that everyone will be confused! YAY! I’ll never have a bathroom available to me ever again. YAAAAAAAAAAAY!!!!”
Like, does anybody ever actually think? Do you have any idea what some of us had to go through to get to where we are?
Let me tell you something. I went through two years of brutal, mind-fucking abuse before I even knew what “genderqueer” was. I still, years later, wake up in a cold sweat because I can hear his voice in my ear. Those years that I spent not living as who I was first as one binary gender and then after a forced detransition then the other? I wanted to die. Every fucking day. Every day that I lived with him, I knew that if I did anything even slightly “incorrectly” gendered, I would be beaten with a belt or a hanger or whatever else was convenient. And then if I was lucky, we would have sex later to “fuck the [ASAB]” back into me.
So I don’t want to fucking hear this shit from anyone, least of all strangers who don’t know a goddamn thing about my life.
Fuck you, I’m over it.
A-unfucking-men.
Children’s lives lie at the center of social struggles over trans gender and intersex issues. If you talk with trans and intersex adults about the pain they’ve faced, the same issue comes up over and over again, from mirror-image perspectives: that of medical interventions into the sexed body of the child. Intersex and trans adults are often despairing over not having had a say as children over what their sexes should be, and how doctors should intervene. Meanwhile, transphobes and the mainstream backers of intersex “corrective” surgery also focus on medical intervention into children’s bodies. They frame interventions into the sexual characteristics of intersex children as heroic and interventions into the bodies of trans children as horrific.
The terms and claims that get tossed around in these debates are very dramatic. Mutilation. Suicide. Chemical castration. Forced sex changes.
We need to understand what’s going on here, because it’s the central ethical issue around which debates about intersex and trans bodies swirl. The issue here is the question of self-determination, of autonomy. Bodily autonomy is the shared rallying cry of trans and intersex activists, though we might employ it in opposite ways. Refusing it to us is framed as somehow in our best interests by our opponents.
In this post we will look at how four groups frame the issue: intersex people, trans people, the mainstream medical professionals who treat intersex people, and opponents of trans rights.
Read the whole thing. The more I read of Intersex Roadshow, the more I love it. The lack of respect for the autonomy of children is disgusting. Though, it’s not like non-privileged people get much more respect as adults…
A long-term follow-up study of mortality in transsexuals receiving treatment with cross-sex hormones
This study was published online in 2011 and has some good news for transmen undergoing hormone treatment. Its objective was to assess “mortality rates in transsexual subjects receiving long-term cross-sex hormones.” It concludes that in “female-to-male transsexuals total mortality and cause-specific mortality were not significantly different from those of the general population.”
The link leads to an abstract but there’s a link on the page to the full text. You can access it for free!
dude why did you tag a study about trans men with ‘mtf’?
Because “transsexuals” means “trans men” when you’re talking positively.
It’s a special kind of fuckery to take a study that observed both trans men and trans women and only post the parts about trans men and tag it with #mtf, though.
I’ve seen this reblogged several times now and each time I keep wtf-ing that someone actually had the nerve to do that. So, now y’all get to share my pain.
Because our leaders are cissexist buttfaces, I and my local friends might have trouble voting this election. Here’s what I posted on Facebook to help my friends out.
If you are a trans person in Indiana, you could face problems voting in the forthcoming election. Indiana is a “strict photo ID” state, meaning that anything which election workers see as a “discrepancy” could prevent your vote from counting — and that’s a problem for a lot of folks in mid-transition.
Please ensure that the name under which you’re registered to vote is the same as the name on your ID, and that your ID picture matches your current gender presentation. You’ll probably also want to ensure that the gender marker on your ID matches your presentation; alas, Indiana makes this hard. The good news is that you can get a U.S. passport with an updated gender marker, even if you haven’t had surgery, by getting a letter from your physician stating that you have undergone appropriate treatment for your transition, and submitting that letter in person along with your application. A passport is considered a valid photo ID for voting purposes in Indiana. For more information on getting a passport with the correct gender, please see this (PDF) guide.(Note that, from what I understand, what I’ve said here applies to other “strict photo ID” states as well. I’m not 100% certain of that, though. Still, couldn’t hurt to reblog this in hopes that it helps others!)
(via telegantmess)
Any cis person who gets it in their head to oppose transition and preach of “a better way” needs to be willing to answer the question: “Better for whom?”
Transness is not a political position.
Trans people do not all have the same politics.
Trans women do not all have the same politics.
Trans women are not a political movement.
That politically active trans women almost universally oppose Radical Feminism does not mean we’re a single movement or even a hivemind. It means we recognize bigotry against us when we see it.
For those of you who wonder where trans rage comes from, here’s a bit of a hint. It keeps a lot of trans people going.
You know what’s hilarious (in a gross I hate the world way)
Most of the cis lesbians who freak out when they find out I’m trans were the ones who hit on me and tried to get with me first.
Sometimes without me even showing any interest back (cuz seriously, I don’t date or fuck people I don’t already know well, trust issues + anxiety + sexual trauma history) or even showing specific disinterest.
So please tell me, cisfuck radscum. How exactly am I the aggressor here when those cisfuck lesbian chicks were the ones who wanted and pursued me?
But they can tell. They can always tell. The Y chromosome that you definitely have is visible from space and you were so aggressively existing that real lesbians had no choice but to hit on you in self-defense.
Oh I forgot about that.
Cisbians aggressively sexually pursue trans women out of fear and horror and revulsion from seeing the neon Y floating over my head with a penis for the bottom part of the Y and two balls on the top parts, not because they find me physically attractive before their bigotry hit or anything.
These memos. No one ever sends them to me.
I just don’t understand cis people. They want to punish trans* people for violating their assumptions that they know what trans people look like, that they could never be attracted to a trans* person. They can’t handle the concept that trans* people, especially trans women, are just as attractive as cis people. Cis lesbian bigots want to believe there’s some essence that makes trans women not really women like them. And it’s not there.
PA Teacher Videotapes, Humiliates Gay Student Who Took Trans Date To Prom
We didn’t have the best prom experience—mainly because we took a girl and not the guy we were crushing on. But gay teen Jared Swank of Hanover, PA, had his prom memories tarnished after the fact, when he learned a teacher who videotaped him and his date played the clip for the amusement of her science class.
Swank, who brought a trans girl to prom, had originally allowed the unnamed educator to record them at the dance. But he says he had no idea she was going to show it to other students. “I come to school Monday and that’s when I heard about everything that happened. And it made me really upset. I don’t think it was right.” He tells Eyewitness News he feels “exploited.”
On Thursday, Swank’s mother, Dawn Mendygral, went before the school board and demanded to know why this teacher broadcast the video of Jason and his date, especially since he has been bullied at the school for years. “I don’t know what her intention was, but I know I’m not understanding why she would take it to school and play it in the classroom,” said Mendygral.
Hanover Area School Board President John Pericci said the district considers itself inclusive and welcoming, and confirmed the teacher’s actions are being investigated. A meeting is scheduled for Tuesday between Mendygral and school officials.
I’m kind of wondering why the trans girl is being outed (although not named). It strikes me as really not a good thing.
K: and people who are actually in the LGBTQ community argue that trans* people don’t completely need and deserve the support of the rest of the LGBTQ community more than any other part of it?
This is horrible…….. : (
Signal boost. Wake up, world. Stop erasing trans* people.
Here, have some perspective.
Signed,
A Trans Person Who Attempted Suicide
(via whovianfeminist)
Nothing like seeing yet another cis woman write about rape survivors and trans women as though the two never intersect
Seriously, cis women (especially white cis women)? You’re not the only people raped. Trans people get raped at a higher rate than you do.
(Of course the cis woman in question won’t see this because she blocked me for ‘rape apologism’ for not uncritically believing a rumour about a newly-out trans woman being a rapist.)
freesamuel replied to your post: It might just be me as a trans person, but to me preferring certain genitalia is what sexual orientation is. It seems wrong to disregard that people can have different physical responses to different types of people.I think people are conflating genitals with a preference for penetration or penetrating during sex… That’s a legit preference that doesn’t HAVE to have anything to do with gender.truth!
Don’t you know? That’s all penises and vaginas do! Penises just penetrate, and vaginas just get penetrated. When one person with a penis has sex with a person with a vagina, it’s ALWAYS PIV sex. Every time! Didn’t you know that?!
God, people are so ignorant these days! SHEESH
And let me just add! When two people with penises have sex with each other, they have a choice on who puts the penis in the other person! And when two people with vulvas have sex with each other, well…strap-ons don’t exist, and they certainly can ONLY EVER be used on people with vulvas. But only by people with vulvas.
Also, all sex has to involve all partners’ genitals. Every time.
I cannot stick my dick in a vagina or any other opening. It fires up such severe dissonance that it just instantly kills the mood for me.
So I kinda lol when people are like “I DON’T WANNA FUCK YOU CUZ YOU’RE GONNA STICK THAT THING IN ME”. Um no thanks. I don’t want that thing going anywhere. You’ll be lucky if I even let you touch it with your hands. Cuz that can go wrong too.
I smell heteronormativity and even homonormativity (though maybe not lesbonormativity) in the whole penis=penetrates, vulvas=penetrated/envelops. I will also say that the sex that I have with other trans people (and I really don’t have sex with cis people much at all any more) a lot of times involves two or more layers of fabric between my partner’s genitals and mine. Cis people apparently have no imagination when it comes to sex, even if they’re not straight. This continues to be driven home by their transphobia and cissexism.
Oh, and since I always like giving clues, cis people might want to look into the concept of frottage. Just a suggestion.
